What are the signs that your child is pampered?
From the time your child begins to crawl and walk, he begins to assert his personal likes and dislikes.
If you find that your child is lording it over you all the time; if he says ‘no’ to most things you want him to do, and if he refuses to take ‘no’ for an answer-then your child is pampered and self-centered.
1. MAKE A FEW RULES
It would be wise to make a few rules for him to follow which are at his level of growth.
One rule that he needs to follow is “ early to bed, early to rise.”
Train him to eat the food that you give to him at timely intervals.
Although rules at this time need not be set in cement, at least you should have a flexible schedule.
2. LEARN TO SAY ‘NO’
You are older, therefore you know what is best for your child.
Even if he creates a scene, do say ‘no’ to any unreasonable demands and stick with it.
Sometimes, when a child keeps nagging, we give in- as we think it’s the path of least resistance.
For example, when you’re out shopping, and if he wants a particular truck, and he has one at home, there is no need for you to buy it for him.
If he enjoys throwing and breaking his toys , resist the desire to replace these immediately with new ones. Even if you can afford buying a new toy, teach him to respect what you’ve given him already.
3. WHEN HE SAYS ‘NO’
Give in to him – if it’s a non issue.
4. PAMPERED CHILDREN EXPECT EVERY ONE TO MEET THEIR DEMANDS
If he is not taught , he’ll order every one around regardless of their age, or whether they are outsiders.
A good upbringing means that you teach good manners to your child.
Even being rude to servants is a ‘no-no.’
He has to be taught that helpers are also human beings.
5. WHEN SHE THROWS HERSELF ON THE GROUND
She may do this if she does not get her way immediately.
It is embarrassing if she does it in public.
You can watch her silently till she stops or you can walk away a little distance.
When she thinks that you’re going to leave her, she is likely to stop her tantrum.
She’ll be more concerned to be near you. Perhaps later, if you if you feel it’s alright, you can give her what she asked for.