Are you worried about inculcating the right moral values in your child?
Does your child lie often by cooking up stories every now and then?
Well! This is truly the age when imaginary dolls or scary monsters are always surrounding your kid.
Two and onwards, is usually the age when kids lie a lot.
Surely, this is not just restricted to your kid.
All parents are worried at this age to get their kids back on the track of good behaviour.
“Don’t ask me questions and I won’t tell you any lies.”
Small kids are way smarter than you gauge them to be.
Your expressions and reactions get registered in your little ones mind without your noticing it.
A small kid would tell all kinds of lies to satiate his or her creative front, to derive fun by seeing your reaction to it, to escape a punishment or to strike a conversation with you.
In this post, you will come across some sure shot ways of stopping your child from lying.
Children: How to stop lying at an Early Age?
Lying, if unchecked, could become a serious disorder.
Having said that, you also need to understand that lying till 4 years of age is absolutely normal.
Some effort definitely needs to be put in to ensure that your kid understands that lying is wrong.
Here, are some ways of doing it:
1. Never ask open ended questions
The first thing to keep in mind is to avoid any direct and open questions like,
“Have you cleaned your room? Or have you finished your meal?”
Such questions give freedom of lying to your child.
Rather than being direct you need to take a roundabout approach.
Say, “I can see you did not clean your room, you should do it soon.” or “You haven’t finished your meal, go do it right away.”
This will give very less scope to your child to lie and slowly he or she will start being direct in answering your roundabout questions.
2. Respect your kid’s privacy
It is okay if your kid takes some time to come out with the truth.
Many a times he may want to remain quiet or may even lie about what is asked to him.
Even kids love to do things on their own.
Your kid may choose to play with mud or to play with his imaginary companions at times which might not be appreciable from your end.
But, it’s okay as after all, they are still kids who are learning.
At times, you should just take it easy and ignore some HARMLESS lies of your child just to give him his space.
3. Never lose your cool
Generally kids lie to escape scolding or spankings from their parents. They are forced to lie to escape the bad reaction of their moms and dads.
To stop this, you need to maintain your calm when your child comes up with the truth. Even if he is lying, you could counsel him patiently later when you have calmed yourself down.
Kids will eventually learn and do what they are taught to.
It takes little time to discipline them, but it surely happens with little effort, tact and patience.
4. Be a Role Model
What your kid sees, is what he learns.
Kids love to imitate their parents.
As a parent, you should avoid telling lies.
For them, everything done by their parents his RIGHT!
So, avoid lying most of the times and even if you have to do it, then do it very smartly so that your child never catches your lie.
It takes a huge amount of effort, patience, understanding and love to bring up a child with the right values.
Kids stop lying after some time when they gain confidence that they will not be judged or blamed.
It is very important to give the right support and space to your kid when he or she is lying.
I am sure it’s not such a difficult thing and you would surely get your kid to stop lying with little effort.