Today we are excited to talk to you about one of the rightly biggest relationship challenges in a married girl’s life – how to be a good daughter in law.

The fact that you have searched for such advice and have started reading this far needs a tremendous recognition and applause!

Out of a wedlock, both partners get huge pressures to get introduced and gel with new people called in-laws. But out of the two, the wife is the most tensed as her every move is closely watched.

All thanks to our daily serials, there is a central established idea here that all mother in laws are wicked old women who solely exist to keep finding fault in all that you do.While the stereotype is sometimes true, today’s mother in laws are well educated and soft hearted and will likely be a friend.

Tensed on how to handle her? Read the following tips to know how you can erase off your worries.

GOLDEN RULE 1: BE POSITIVE!

Worries never helped anyone. No matter how much you ponder over and over the same thing, the outcome is not going to change.

Don’t carry the ugly burden of suspicion, anger or hatred right at the beginning of your relationship due to false prejudices. Shrug off everything and approach your mother in law with an open clean heart.

Compliment and ask small tips about how you can do something like an ice breaker.

In a relationship, winning an argument is the worst ever goal – it only provides a momentary win while you lose for life. Consider this scenario – just like you, she is also a woman who has just suddenly been given the post of a mother in law – she is nervous too and trying to adjust. If you are not careful enough, you might set off a cold war for eternity.

Don’t try to threaten her peace of mind and make the environment relaxed by erasing any notions of competition between you – assure her that there is a place for everybody in the family and nobody will take away hers.

GOLDEN RULE 2: GET TO KNOW HER PAST!

If your mother in law is a trouble maker, wear your detective cap and get to know what happened in the past.

She might have seen some old people abandoned by their children and might have turned too clingy.

Maybe all her life revolved around maintaining the house each day – now that you are there, she is suddenly bored and has nothing to do.

Maybe she has no other source of income and is worried that her son won’t take care of her like before.

Dig out her past slowly and you will know why she’s acting strange and eliminate the biggest fears of her life and set her free. She won’t bug you again.

GOLDEN RULE 3: CONSIDER HER YOUR MOTHER!

Okay okay! Your mother is awesome, loveable and the best on the planet. But did we choose our parents? We were just born into this world and got lucky to fall into the hands of a loving mother.

If your mother in law is a grumpy complainer, just think that you’ve got a grumpy mother and adore how cute she looks while complaining. Pause for a moment and see what you’ll do if your mother behaves this way. When you do this, all her musings just become background noise – you accept her for what she is and go on.

Try getting a gift or two for her on her birthday or take her out for hair colouring – you will find that she is a mother at heart and everything else is just a little fault.

Some girls today demand that they be found a boy who does not have parents or is living far away from them. If you try hard enough, you might get a smartphone separately, but what is the use of the smartphone without earphone, charger, SIM card and memory card? Your husband is a package too, these parts are a part of him and just tossing them away will not make your life any better. The smartphone will always suffer from the lack of these components! Instead of acting with hatred, crack your heart until it opens and faces the life with love!

How did you become an awesome daughter in law? Have any secret tools of success? Share them here so we can all be happy!