Is your toddler giving you a tough time?
Do you often see him/her throwing tantrums and misbehaving?
Is your child suddenly being dis-obedient?
Well, this is often the hardest phase for parents as your child is trying to exert his/her freedom and you have to walk a fine line between encouraging them to be independent and disciplined.
It’s a stressful experience for all the parents whose children are in this phase.
Parents like you, rightly so go crazy handling a toddler going through this phase. Often you would find them breaking down too out of frustration.
But, like they say, ‘where there is a will there is a way’
Scolding, screaming and beating them might seem like an answer but this will only complicate things and lead to child abuse. Though, scolding sometimes is necessary and parents need to be a little strict.
In this post, you will find some good tips on how to handle your baby. The best way to deal with your naughty kid is to be tactful and diligent.
How to Deal with a naughty Kid ?
Here, are some very helpful tips to help you in this difficult phase:
1. Understanding why your child is being Naughty
It’s important to know what your child’s intention is in his/her action.
When he/she tries to assert his/her Independence this must not be taken as being disobedience.
It’s important to understand that dealing with a naughty or disobedient child needs extreme patience.
Most of the times children’s actions are aimed at attracting their parent’s attention.
They might scream at you, hit you, or do something good/bad to get your attention and once you give them attention, they’ll calm down and smile.
2. Treat your kid as a grown up
Whenever your child does something wrong, you need to tell him that his friends might not appreciate it.
For example, if your child is writing on the walls, then you need to tell him that he is dirtying his own house and his friends may refuse to play in such dirty house.
So, he needs to keep his house clean for them to visit often and play with him.
This often works out and your child learns subtly that even he is also responsible for maintaining his surroundings clean.
Making your child understand what’s wrong and what’s right is important.
3. Give options
At a certain stage children want to be more independent and exert theirindependence and freedom.
Toddlers want things their way too just like adults.
So, give them two to three options to choose from.
This would give them a feeling of being independent and free.
4. Set Examples
“Monkey see, Monkey do” is very true in case of children.
You need to act as a role model for your child.
You need to first discipline yourself in all aspects and then teach your child by setting an example.
Kids learn very fast from their parents and surely home is their first school.
They learn best by example and not by just words.
5. Reward your child for good behavior
When your child behaves well, you should always reward him/her with a pat on the back or chocolate for being good.
Appreciation works like magic on your child in re-enforcing that good behavior is rewarding.
This sub-consciously would help in setting expectations for him/her to pursue good behavior.
6. Consequence for repeated bad behavior
When your child behaves badly it is best not to take any violent measures as this might lead to even worse behavior in future where even the most violent measure would not work.
The best way to go about such behavior is patience and tactfulness.
You can take away privileges like watching television or toys which they love till they comply and fully understand that such behavior is unacceptable.
7. Let the child experiment
Your little creature is blessed with a highly curious mind which wants to try out everything.
You may want to give a little freedom of doing things his/her way which will encourage your child to listen to you and try to please you. So, you give them more freedom.
For example, if he wishes to play with water, then just give him some and make him sit in the balcony or your wash area where he could play freely and then change his clothes once he is done.
These small tips should surely make a big difference in improving your child’s behavior. Slowly but surely children will learn the difference of what’s right and what’s wrong and chose the right thing with guidance and love. The way to being a good parent is patience and tactfulness.
The most important part is to build a bond with your child which is the best way to make him/her obedient and listen to what you say.