Important parenting tips
There is a time for everything. When your child is an infant, you carry her everywhere. It is vital that you protect her.
As your child becomes a toddler, he’s all over the place– touching this, throwing that, tripping and stumbling, falling and picking himself up. Often your heart is in your mouth, when you see the speed at which your child toddles. It is difficult to control your anxiety.
Your child’s safety is paramount. So you should take all the precautions that you possibly and humanly can-especially when he is solely under your care and supervision.
But there will come a time when you can’t look after him all by yourselves. Your child will be introduced to other children, care givers, to the play school and eventually to nursery , primary and secondary schools. This is where the element of trust comes in
The best thing you can do is to do a thorough research of the people and places before you entrust your child to them. Do all the background checks you need to till you are absolutely satisfied. You may not get perfection, but if most of your boxes are ticked, then you’ll have to be willing to take some risks – or keep your child at home!
It is perfectly right and natural to want your child safe- but don’t cross the line where your over-anxiety keeps your child tied to your apron strings. Let him fall sometimes, pick himself up and go on.
Often parents of one child quarrel with the parents of another child over their children’s fights. After sometime, you will find that the children have made peace with each other and are playing happily with each other. The parents haven’t declared cease-fire yet! The lesson here is – as far as possible let children sort out their differences by themselves-except when they come to blows. Then of course, you’ll need to separate them.
A case of over-protectiveness that I’d like to share is this story told to me by a teacher. There was marathon race being run in a particular city. This was a race for teenagers. One boy was almost winning. There was another boy who was somewhere in the middle. The relatives of the second boy, took him in their car, beat up the boy who was nearly winning, and took their boy in the car near to the finish line. You can guess who was declared the winner! I don’t know whether the officials were aware of what was happening or not.
What impact would this interference have on both the children? Definitely not good. Parents need to balance their attitudes. They need to see to their wards’ well-being without doing things that would demean and stunt their children’s growth.