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While marriage could be a real blissful experience of showing heaven on earth, having a difficult mother in law could put you through hell.
Are you wondering how to deal with a tough mother in law?
Well, dealing with your tough MIL depends a lot on your relationship with your husband and how supportive and understanding he is about this ‘saas –bahu‘ issue.
Still, whatever the situation be remember there are always some thumb rules to every difficult situation like this.
“A mother in law can show you stars during the day.“
Normally, a lot is expected from the newlywed girl in the Indian culture.
And, the in laws are always insecure about losing their son to his wife.
This is what creates the whole tiff and unfriendly behavior.
But, as they say, intelligence can take you a long way so it is best to deal with it intelligently, rather than losing patience.
In this post, you would come across some sure shot ways of dealing with a tough mother in law.
Mother in Law Problems
It is always difficult to have a mother in law who is tough to deal with. Having such a person around can make you insecure, frustrated, annoyed and negative all the time.
But, almost every woman faces it at some point or the other.
Usually such mother in laws can’t do much physically and very conveniently put the entire burden of work on you.
A wise thing to do in such case is to appoint a helping hand.
Also, never expect your MIL to help you.
The other way of shutting your MIL up is to start maintaining a distance.
You should be formal, yet polite in your way of talking.
Talk less and always be busy with something.
Moreover, keeping yourself busy will also help divert your mind.
This will result in less interaction from her side, and hence less comments and taunts.
One of the smartest ways of dealing with in laws is to take up a job.
A job will keep you extremely occupied, leaving no time to be bothered about your MIL.
Of course, your mother in law won’t make it easy for you to step out and may try to hold you back, but,
Try to please her by bringing her a gift at the end of every month when you get your paycheck.
This tactic will make things a lot more easier for you.
She will be gentle with your maid when you are not around.
She will also support your going out for that one nice gift at the end of every month.
Don’t overtly express your Displeasure
She will not change for you at all.
But, getting back will disturb your peace of mind completely and will further worsen the situation.
Such, mothers in law can get revengeful too, and with a job, husband, house and kids you won’t be able to fight the battle this way.
The wise thing to do here is to ignore her to the fullest.
I know it is difficult to stay quiet, but you will reap the benefits.
Slowly, you are earning good points for yourself in your husband’s book too.
He will observe, though may not say anything, and will know that his mom is unfair to you.
Isn’t that a victory in itself?
Now, no matter how much ill your MIL talks in front of your husband, his love and respect for you will remain the same.
Make a social circle
A mother in law is always scared of getting defamed.
The larger social circle you have, that much scared she will be of you.
Also, it will give you a break from the negative vibes of your mother in law.
Friends will bring a fun factor to your life.
Never be Scared
If two people are destined to be together, they will be, no matter what.
Your mother in law will not be able to separate you both.
But, in that process, you shouldn’t end up spoiling your karma.
So, the best way of dealing with it is to be a detached role player.
Just do what you are supposed to do in your house and leave the rest.
Rest, all is going to be fine.