Getting your kid to listen to you and co-operate is one of the major concerns that will surely come to every parent.

I am sure you are wondering ‘how to tune in your kid who has completely tuned out?‘

Compliance, rules, threats, spanking, screaming, ignoring, getting annoyed, etc. are some of the ways that most of the parents like you have already tried to gain cooperation and attention of their kids.

Yet, the fact remains that the kids refuse to come to your terms.

Now, of course the million-dollar question is “How to deal with it?”

As somebody rightly said, “Children need love the most when they don’t deserve it.”

A child is a child with a mind of his own.

Disobeying surely doesn’t mean non-cooperation, it also sometimes means choosing to do something else that one may like to.

In this post, you will come across certain measures to ensure that your child listens to you.

MY CHILD DOESN’T LISTEN TO ME WHAT TO DO?

When your kid stops listening to you often then there is something surely wrong with the relationship you are sharing with your kid.

Remember, that kids are pure beings and will tune in and mould the way we want them to. So, if they are behaving opposite to what they are expected of, then there is surely something wrong in it.

A few check points that will help you establish that connect with your child to bring him on to the same page as you are:

BONDING:

If your kid is strongly bonded to you or your husband then he or she will respond positively to what is being asked for.

Normally, when the connection between you and your child is not right then your child will ignore you and will find happiness in doing his own stuff.

FLEXIBILITY:

Your kid will only obey you if he is given the freedom of disobeying you as well.

Be flexible while dealing with little wonders as they have a mind of their own.

You should focus on ensuring that you child listens to you for at least 6 out of 10 times.

Reward your little one when he listens to you.

REPAIR CONNECTIONS:

Ignorance by a child is a strong behavioural trait that comes in when your relationship with your child is not good.

It is either that the child is deprived of your time and is not getting enough attention or it could be that he misses being understood by you most of the times.

These things may sound irrelevant when it comes to kids but remember what they see and experience has a deep impact on their conscience which in turn comes out in their behaviour.

SOME REAL-LIFE SITUATIONS AND WAYS OF DEALING WITH THEM

SCENARIO 1:

Your two-year-old toddler is drawing stuff on the floor with crayons.

You try to explain it to him that it is not what he is supposed to do but he just doesn’t listen at all. You request him to clean it off but all in vain.

REALITY:

At a tender age of 2, the kid feels that playing is a lot more fun than doing anything else.

He is not paying attention as his curious mind is enjoying the activity he is up to.

Before three years of age, kids receive the stimuli but are not able to either comprehend them or respond as per the expectations.

Imagine, yourself in a foreign land where you don’t understand the local language.

You forget the road directions and are lost completely.

But, you like the idea of exploring new places and hence you are completely engrossed in doing that.

And, just then a local walks up to you and starts talking in a foreign language.

How would you feel?

ACTION:

You need to get down to come at the level of your two-year-old. Try to grab his attention first. He might be too excited to show you what he is up to.

Acknowledge his creation first and then go on to explaining him that crayons are to be drawn on the paper and not on the floor. You may now tell him gently to clean it all up.

Ask him to grab a wet duster and wipe it off.

For doing this, he may need your help and you may have to hand over the duster to him.

He may still not know how it is supposed to be used so you may have to show him how to wipe off once and then point towards his drawings and ask him to do rub off.

SCENARIO 2:

Your 5-year-old kid is always up to some fun when it’s time to get ready for school.

And, especially when it’s a rush hour for you, your spouse, and your kid.

REALITY:

The child may have different agenda of playing around, interacting with you or her dad or picking up some activity that she likes. Kids don’t know what it means to be on time.

ACTION:

Be as organised as you could be to gear up for the rush hours in the mornings.

Put your child to sleep early so that he or she gets adequate sleep and is up by early morning. Draw a big chart with a lot of pictures telling your kid what needs to be followed in the morning hours.

Remember your child may also have difficulty in following the multi-step process and you may have to orient him repeatedly.

You may consider talking it out with him in leisurely hours.

Try and set a routine for him through the day.

That ways your kid will get tuned to what he or she is gonna do next.

This will take the onus of getting ready off your shoulders and the child will himself take the responsibility.

This is just a phase but you need to be wise enough to deal with it.

A positive, humble and a flexible approach is always appreciated and well reciprocated by the kid.