New parents: Your life has just started
Baby Baby Baby, OOh Baby Baby Baby
No, it’s not a Justin Bieber song. Poor new parents. Sorry, dear new parents, these are the words that you are going to be telling each other, for the next few years. No, not calling each other baby. All that you talk, is going to be about your baby boy or your baby girl.
Daddy: Why don’t you make him stop crying? I need to go early to work tomorrow & I haven’t had enough sleep for the past 2 weeks. Its 2AM already!
Mommy: Here take your baby. Try & put him to sleep. Quit working. You stay at home, I’ll go back & join my job.
Daddy: How can I do that? It’s your job as a Mom. He cries louder when I try to pacify him.
Mommy: Exactly! Don’t tell me what to do. It’s difficult for me too. I wasn’t trained for this all my life
Baby (in his mind): Seriously guys? This loud? Forget sleeping tonight also.
This was bound to happen. You definitely weren’t prepared for sleepless nights. Take turns in taking care of the baby.
Give your partner some rest. Working dads, please take care of the baby at least in the evenings, or help with the household chores after getting back from work.
Daddy: It’s our wedding anniversary tomorrow. Let’s go out for a nice dinner.
Mommy: Yeah that will be great. But wait! What about the baby? We can’t leave him alone at home. He’s too small to even go out with us.
Daddy: Why don’t we leave him at your Mom’s or at my Mom’s place?
Mommy: No, I don’t feel good about it. He’s too small & will be a burden on them. Why don’t we just order something in?
Daddy: Ok. Whatever you say. It’s about spending time together. But don’t complain, about staying at home, all the time.
Baby (in his mind): I love it when it’s about me. I love you guys.
Going out for parties, dinners or to the movies, until your baby is about a year old, is a distant dream. Unless, you have someone to take care of him. Someone you can trust & with whom, the baby can be comfortable with. You are definitely going to miss spending private time together for a few months. Try having lunch or dinner together at home. Try doing things together. This way, you can spend quality time with each other & even with the baby.
Daddy: Why don’t we hire a full time nanny or a baby sitter for the baby? You need some rest after all.
Mommy: It’ll be a relief, but can we afford a baby sitter now? I won’t be going back to work until he’s one year old. It’s just you who is supporting the family now.
Daddy: You are right. His vaccines, diapers, baby food, painting the baby room is already making a hole in my pockets.
Baby (in his mind): Baby sitter? Maybe she speaks baby language? Please get her. I’ll chip in. I’m tired of seeing the same faces.
A baby is a responsibility. Your expenditure is bound to increase. You have to cut down on some not so important expenses.
The frequent doctor visits, for their timely vaccinations, & buying baby products, is definitely going to affect your budget.
Daddy: Why is he vomiting so often? Why isn’t he eating?
Mommy: My friend told me it could be because the new baby food product we tried doesn’t suit him.
Daddy: Why is he suffering from dehydration?
Mommy: My cousin told me it could be because of the heat inside his body.
Baby (in his mind): Duh-uh I‘m 8 months old. I’m teething. Call the doc someone!
Please, do not listen to your friend, uncle, aunty, neighbour or Google. Do not give self-medication. You do not take such risks with a small baby. Consult your pediatrician. Ask him why your child vomits, why he cries a lot, why he is suffering from dehydration.
You are not being fussy or paranoid. You are being a new parent. Ask as many doubts as you can. But do not take advice from people who do not have any medical knowledge. Take advice from experts.
Let’s hope after he turns 1 your life changes from a Justin Bieber song to a happy new year song 🙂