Why resort to harsh methods, when you can deal with your kids peacefully?
Instead of punishing your kid, or scolding him, the first time he does something wrong, it’s better, you give him a timeout.
Make him sit in a chair for about 10 to 15 minutes. Tell him, he’s not allowed to do anything else during the timeout & that nobody is going to talk to him, until his timeout finishes. But before giving a timeout, you should tell him a few things.
– Tell him the reason you gave him a timeout for.
– Tell him why, what he did was wrong.
– Tell him that he cannot repeat it again.
– Tell him that he will be punished the next time he repeats it.
– Tell him that the punishment will not be as simple as a timeout.
Scenario 1: (in his mind: Oh No! I didn’t do it Mommy. The glass was too hot.)
Do not give a timeout when your kid accidentally spills milk. But make sure, you ask him to be more careful, when he’s handling such things, the next time.
Scenario 2: (in his mind: I told you I didn’t want it. I just had to drop it.)
If your kid doesn’t want to have milk & in order to avoid drinking it and spills it or drops the glass, or pushes the glass away so it might fall, he definitely deserves a timeout.
Talking back: (in his mind: You guys taught me to talk. Don’t blame me!)
If you tell him that ‘he is being a bad boy’, and he says, ‘you are bad Mommy’, when you tell him, ‘don’t talk back’, and he tells you , ‘don’t talk back Mommy‘, he needs to know that he’s not allowed to talk like that. Not just these, but even when you tell your kid to go to bed, not to throw his toys around, etc., and he talks back, then its time he gets a timeout.
Playing with & throwing gadgets/electrical equipment: (in his mind: Even I can use an iPhone. Here let me show it to you.)
Firstly, do not leave any gadgets within the reach of your kid. Kids try to open anything which has more than a single piece.
Things like your phone, which has a battery panel, your TV remote, the A/C remote, etc. They try and put their fingers into a plug point. They like throwing things. They wouldn’t know the difference between your phone & a toy. He might throw your phone, the way he throws his toys. You need to give him a timeout when he tries to do such careless things.
Wetting the bed: (in his mind: It’s all wet. Did Mommy give me a bath while sleeping?)
This is usually an involuntary action in kids. They do not do it on purpose. Some kids wet the bed in their sleep, for up to 3years of age. There are kids, who do it till they are 5years old, or even older. Eventually, they will grow out of it. (Also see, bedwetting)
Giving a timeout for an involuntary action is pointless. It, will either create unnecessary fear in your kid or will not have any effect on him.
He would assume that he will get a timeout for anything he does & will not let a timeout affect him.
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